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RE: Culture: Cognitive Dissonance

[Editor’s Note: This was submitted early in the
morning on Wednesday…but we waited to post it so it would ruin NJ’s
jokey intro. #StopBeingTardy]

Hey Radic- What?  It’s STILL Tuesday somewhere? Oh, crap… I need
to find something to do to procrastinate, otherwise I might get back on
schedule!  This is not good at all; if I go back on schedule then I
might get writer’s block again, thus preventing me from
writing…anything…further…Ah.  Yeah, I guess not writing in order to
be able to write is a bit counterproductive, my bad.

Anyway, speaking of lame cutesy-pie transition sentences that are not related at all to the rest of the paragraph non sequiturs, let’s talk about alleged teenage lesbian pedophilia!

The story of Kaitlyn Hunt reads like a bad episode of Law & Order: SVU, complete with cries of homophobia, a “sympathetic” defendant, plea bargains and legal loopholes, all of which surround, and cloud, an alleged case of statutory rape.

But it wasn’t just the normal, every-day kind statutory rape.
No, it was LESBIAN statutory rape.  Because that totally matters
somehow.

To summarize the case ( because clearly nobody clicked on any of the
links so far) this 18 year-old women, Kaitlyn Hunt, was allegedly
involved in a “consensual”  sexual relationship with a 14-15
year-old girl (a teammate on her High School basketball team)
until the younger girl’s parents caught wind of the situation and
decided to press charges, potentially forcing Kaitlyn to have to
register as a sex offender.

Seems pretty clear-cut, right?  I mean, if I learned that my 15-year-old kid was having sex with -anyone-
I’d be on the phone to the cops right before I started thinking about
how awful a parent I was for not knowing this was going on.  That,
however, does not appear to be what the victim’s parents did.  An
allegation has been leveled against the parents of the victim, claiming
that they waited until Kaitlyn turned 18 before they pressed charges
instead of going to the police as soon as they were aware of the
situation.

Who made this allegation?

Kaitlyn’s mom, Kelley Hunt Smith, who stated that the younger girl’s parents were trying to destroy her daughter:

“They are out to destroy my daughter, because they
feel like she ‘made’ their daughter gay. They see being gay as wrong and
they blame my daughter. Of course, I see it 100% differently. I don’t
see or label these girls as gay. They are teenagers in high school
experimenting with their sexuality – with mutual consent. And even if
their daughter is gay, who cares? She is still their daughter.”

That’s a pretty powerful, if emotional, argument to make,
particularly if the  younger girl’s parents did indeed wait to
press charges.  However, I’m afraid I don’t see how it changes the
situation.

For the sake of argument,  let’s say that the younger girl’s
parents ARE in fact vindictive homophobes who hate Kaitlyn because they
think that she turned their daughter gay.  Let’s also say that in
order to maximize the level of retribution that Kaitlyn would face, they
decided to wait to report the statutory rape until after Kaitlyn turned
18.  Does that change the fact that a statutory rape
occurred?  No.  Is it a potential abuse of the law?  I
don’t know.  What I do know is that I have a hard time trying to
figure out how reporting a crime (assuming that the allegations can be
backed up) could be considered anything other than the right thing to
do, regardless of when or why you report it.

Kaitlyn’s parents have a different opinion however.  They have set up a petition on Change.com
to try to get both the county and state attorneys to drop the case
against Kaitlyn, citing “homophobia” as the cause for their daughter’s
plight:

“Kailtyn’s girlfriend’s parents are pressing charges
because they are against the same-sex relationship, even though their
daughter has stated that this is a consensual relationship. The two
girls began dating while Kaitlyn was 17 but her girlfriend’s parents
blamed Kailtyn for their daughter’s homosexuality. They waited until
after Kaitlyn turned 18 and went to the police to have charges brought
against her.”

As I said before, I don’t see how the victim’s parent’s possible
homophobia impacts whether or not a crime occurred, so I  have my
doubts about the efficacy of this petition.  Those doubts grew
exponentially after I read this disturbing sentence from the third
paragraph of the petition: “Now she’s been expelled from school and is facing serious felonies – all because she is in love.” 

Ohhhhhhh! She was in LOVE.  Gotcha.  Nothing to see here, statutory rape is perfectly fine as long as you’re in love.
I somehow must have missed that when I was reading about the state laws
involved in this case.  Wow, I can understand that Kaitlyn’s
parents are trying to save her from  some serious charges, but how
do you make such an illogical argument in a petition,
or anywhere else, for that matter?  Did they think of the
consequences of setting such a precedent?  How many times have
sexual predators coerced their victims into thinking they were in
love?  Particularly when the victim is a minor?  That drove me
nuts.  But then again, this whole stupid awful case does.

It drives me nuts because people are outraged about Kaitlyn being
prosecuted AT ALL, instead of trying to address whatever their concerns
are with the law that she broke.  It drives me nuts that people
think that underage sex isn’t a big deal as long as the parties involved
are both underage and “consent”.

And it drives me nuts that, in the back of my head, I’m not so sure
that  Kaitlyn deserves to be charged with a crime, even though both
my gut and my brain say that she should.

I guess that’s part of why I wrote about it – it made me pretty uncomfortable.

Cya

NJl